It finally happened. You and the person you’ve been talking to on that dating app have decided to meet up. Or the one you’ve been flirting with at the coffee shop has asked you out. You really like this person, and you’re excited. There’s just one problem: You’re in the middle of a massive psoriasis flare.

Resist the Urge to Hide

It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been living with psoriasis, there are likely still times when a flare can cause your confidence to falter. Deep down, you know that shouldn’t be the case. But that doesn’t mean you can just snap your fingers and suddenly all your insecurities will melt away.

During a typical flare, some people find themselves hiding out a bit more, avoiding social gatherings until the flare is under control. “An individual with psoriasis might experience anxiety about trying to hide their psoriasis from a potential partner,” explains Jameca Woody Cooper, Ph.D., a licensed psychologist in St. Louis, Missouri, who just so happens to have psoriasis herself.