Go From Setback to Comeback in 3 Simple Steps
Most of the time, as we’re speeding along through our lives, ticking off the milestones we’ve set for ourselves, we consider any obstacles to be bad news. Who wants to deal with problems when we’ve got our eyes on a goal. But if there’s one thing this year has taught us, it’s that even the best laid plans are subject to the whims of fate. But not every roadblock is bad news—especially when it can give us a chance to reassess whether our past plans fit our current reality and future goals.
To take advantage of a setback, rather than feel victimized by it, we must willingly give up the path we’ve been on if and when we can no longer continue the way we were going. Admittedly, this isn’t always easy. The trajectory we are on often defines our identity and helps us make sense of our lives. It’s natural to want to hang on to it, or to fight to get it back. And yet, control is never a sustainable long-term strategy. If anything, the pandemic has shown us that we never had any control. In the words of author Elizabeth Gilbert: All we had was fear.
When our linear, everyday lives are thrown off course, we need to connect to our non-linear, spiritual lives that hold many of the answers we seek. We’re all going through a transition. Assessing where we are in the phases that author Bruce Feiler defines in his book Life Is in the Transitions can be of great help.